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Multitasking takes away focus, increases procrastination!!

People often procrastinate for different reasons; one could be fear of failure. Evidence indicates that procrastination is associated with high levels of stress (Sirois, 2007).Procrastination often refers to the voluntary postponement of an unpleasant task, often against one’s better judgment (Steel, 2007).

We started to believe in the idea of multi tasking which is an illusion.

“People can’t multitask very well, and when people say they can, they’re deluding themselves,” said neuroscientist Earl Miller. And, he said, “The brain is very good at deluding itself.”

Miller, a Picower professor of neuroscience at MIT, says that for the most part, we simply can’t focus on more than one thing at a time. What we can do, he said, is shift our focus from one thing to the next with astonishing speed. “Switching from task to task, you think you’re actually paying attention to everything around you at the same time. But you’re actually not. “You’re not paying attention to one or two things simultaneously, but switching between them very rapidly.”

“Think about writing an e-mail and talking on the phone at the same time. Those things are nearly impossible to do at the same time”. You cannot focus on one while doing the other. That’s because of what’s called interference between the two tasks,” Miller said. “They both involve communicating via speech or the written word, and so there’s a lot of conflict between the two of them.”

Researchers say they can actually see the brain struggling. And now they’re trying to figure out the details of what’s going on.

How to get rid of Procrastination?

So first organize yourself and take it one by one. To become the person you want to, you got to do some unpleasant things. Once you start completing the tasks one by one you feel a sense of accomplishment and you will start to like it and the more you do, the easier it becomes day by day.

You are going to find that you have more time to do the things that you enjoy; your family, your friends, and your work. You feel more organized, honestly in control of your life; and you in fact will be. You will come to have a new sense of importance about yourself, knowing you are no longer a person who puts things off.

As per Wikipedia: Gratitude, thankfulness, thanksgiving, or gratefulness, from the Latin word gratus ‘pleasing, thankful’, is a feeling of appreciation felt by and/or similar positive response shown by the recipient of kindness, gifts, help, favors, or other types of generosity, towards the giver of such gifts.

Gratitude is an emotion similar to appreciation that we are familiar with. But what we do not know is that gratitude plays an important role in shaping our lives and that gratitude is now becoming an important part of psychology research, and especially positive psychology research.

We believe in the profound saying, “Contentment is a treasure that is never exhausted “, has a great meaning. If you are not happy and satisfied with what you already have, if you are not grateful for the life you already are living, then no matter what you are chasing in life, once you get it you will still not feel fulfilled and peaceful.

I always tell my students: I don’t have a magic wand to help you get out of your jobs and land you in front of your dream house or in your private jet or on a beach. Having said that, YES I can help you create beautiful and everlasting days, where you can include these cherishing moments, in your lives more often to make you life more meaningful and purposeful and worth living.

Mind doesn’t know the difference between anxiety and nervousness. So what label you give to your mind is what makes the difference, it’s a very similar emotion.

What are the emotions/ stimulus and signs for nervousness?

• Your Heart Beat goes up
• You visualize the future
• Your hands get clammy

Now surprisingly this is the exact same thing that happens when you are excited to, you bet?

So the meaning we give to our thoughts is what we experience.

If you ever watched the athletes, they always say that I am excited, before or after the game. They trained their mind that the above three things are signs of excitement.

A research was done on two groups, one was trained to say I am excited and other one was trained to say I am nervous. Guess what the group that said I am excited out performed.

So the meanings we give to our thoughts are what make the difference. Good news is this is all learnt .So we can stop, pause and rewind our learning for a better meaningful life.

In business the most common question is “Why should I buy from you”?

Even before you discuss what company you represent or your experience or your skills , the first thing the client/ customer /interview sees is you, hears is you and asks ”why you “

Influence happens in a second not in 30 minutes until you finish your presentation.

So do you have your key words in the first few seconds that will make or break the sale/interview?

How do you get into an instant rapport with whoever you meet?

The famous quote “if you are not taking care of your customer, your competitor will”

This simply means if they are not buying from you they are buying from someone else. So what will it take for them to buy from you?

As Tony Robbins says, “Best sales people are not trained they are found and then trained”.

Everything we do in life and business is only for 2 things,”The desire to avoid pain or to seek pleasure”.

This is what drives all human behavior. You can’t tell customers what to do.

You have to make them feel not buying is painful or they are missing out on something

Here is the five steps sales process for your sales success:

1. Establish Rapport
2. Ask Questions
3. Find a Want before Need
4. Link the need or value to your product or service
5. Close

“Average length of a hug is 3 seconds. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind.

Did you know “Hugging is a great medicine”. It not only transfers energy but gives the person hugged an emotional lift too. Isn’t that great

Scientist says that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have the words for. You need minimum four hugs a day for survival. Around eight hugs for maintenance and twelve for growth.

And nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one😊

Hugging for 20 seconds releases oxytocin, which can cause you to trust someone more

A hug lowers cortisol and norepinephrine to decrease stress.

Hugging is good for you in the following ways:

• Lowers Blood Pressure
• Lowers risk of heart diseases
• Stress reduction
• Fights fatigue
• Boosts your immune system
• Fights infections
• Eases Depression

20 secs long releases the bonding hormone and neurotransmitter, oxytocin , which is nature’s antidepressant and anti anxiety hormone.

Hug if you want to live longer and healthier:

• Hugging is the key to happiness – Leo Buscaglia
• Hugs can make you feel psychological more secure
• Touching releases endorphins (“the happy hormones”), which kills the pain and increase immunity to fight diseases
• Lower Blood pressure
• Boost Immune system – Positive feelings strengthen the blood’s immune system
• Stress Relief: feeling stressed? Go give someone a squeeze.
• Fear Reduction: Hugs helps soothe individuals’ existential fears.

These days people started to give “Free hugs “outside. Its good but what about the ones we stay with?

Start now. Hug them and say whatever you want to. It will make a world of difference for both.